In July 2016, YouTube Lilly Singh added yet another title to her ever-growing resume: author. The social media star announced on The Tonight Show that her first book, “How To Be A Bawse,” would released Spring 2017.
Describing the book as a tool for people to use to help them achieve their own dreams, Singh told Fallon, “I will be the first to call out my generation. I think sometimes we get super easily validated. We go on social media and there’s a cute Tumblr quote telling us we’re special. I want to bring back the art of working hard for your dreams.”
This commitment to the hustle is echoed in the description for Singh’s book on its official website, which reads, “WARNING: This book does NOT include hopeful thoughts, lucky charms, and cute quotes. That’s because success, happiness and everything else you want in life needs to be fought for – not wished for. In Singh’s world, there are no escalators. Only stairs.”
“How To Be A Bawse” is set to be released on March 28, but today the Canadian entertainer has shared an excerpt from her book on Lena Dunham’s Lenny website. Titling the passage “If You Can Do It, You Don’t Have to Say It,” Singh drops some heavy truth bombs in the passage.
Singh points out in “How To Be A Bawse” that the increase in social media use can often create the illusion that sharing information and physically engaging in an act are the same thing.
“Social media has gotten us into the habit of saying things instead of simply doing things. It’s even led us to believe that saying something is the SAME as doing something. Of course, it’s easy to convince people that what you say online is actually what you do offline. How would they know any better? You’re behind a screen. Maybe you’re actually at hot yoga, or maybe you’re just in your apartment with the AC turned off and your legs mildly stretched out. But a Bawse knows that if you can do something, there’s no need to say it.”
In the excerpt, Singh shares a story about going on a date with someone who spent the evening ‘telling’ her who he was instead of ‘showing her.’
“He’d kept TELLING me about the type of person he was, but he’d done nothing to SHOW me.”
This date and subsequent experiences pushed Singh to the realization that indeed, talk is cheap. Sometimes, the walk is cheap too.
“People often say “words lie and actions speak the truth.” I used to think that was a great saying, but then I heard a motivational speaker by the name of Trent Shelton say something even better. He said, “Words lie; actions can lie too. Consistency speaks the truth.”
Singh has used Shelton’s words to remind her that consistent hard work is better than consistently talking about hard work.
“Don’t tell your boss you work hard; let your work prove it. Don’t just tell your girlfriend you’re loyal; be loyal. Don’t tell your opponent you’re going to knock them out; just knock them out.”
“Talk is cheap, so leave it at the thrift store.”
You can read the full excerpt from “How To Be A Bawse: A Guide To Conquering The World” here.